Objective
Self-sourced.
A self-sourced individual knows themselves, confronts themselves, and takes initiative and ownership of their own development.
They have a strong, trusting, healthy relationship with themselves and are internally motivated to grow and develop without requiring negative consequences to initiate change.
They behave in alignment with their integrity under pressure regardless of external circumstances or the behavior of the people around them.
They accept responsibility for their impact and the roles they choose to occupy.
This practice is focused on developing the skills, strategies, and capacity required to occupy our roles and interpersonal relationships in healthy, sustainable, and fulfilling ways.
Personal capacity expands through consciousness, effort, intentional practice, reflection, and integration.
Capacity is not simply what you are capable of. It is what remains available to you when you are under pressure, circumstances are not ideal, and your environment is uncomfortable.
Skills + Capacity
What we develop is determined by the gap between what your roles and relationships require and what is currently available to you.
Skills are what you learn to do well. Listening. Communicating. Repairing. Recognizing. Regulating.
Strategies are how you learn to apply those skills in healthy, productive ways. Timing. Approach. Adaptation. Recognizing when something isn’t working and changing course.
Capacity determines what remains available to you under pressure. What you can hold, navigate, and access when circumstances become more difficult.
Performance is how those skills, strategies, and capacity translate into how well you show up.
Depending on the person and circumstances, that might include development related to:
- Finding language for feelings, needs, expectations, and experiences
- Determining the right communication strategy, timing, and approach
- Recognizing and interrupting patterns in your own behavior
- Regulating yourself and remaining present under pressure
- Navigating conflict, initiating repair, and rebuilding damaged trust
- Receiving feedback without defensiveness
- Listening for understanding rather than preparing a response
- Recognizing what is and is not your responsibility
- Recognizing the difference between a boundary, request, expectation, and control
- Taking initiative and anticipating what requires attention
- Holding multiple perspectives at once
- Adapting when your current approach is not working
- Responding intentionally and in alignment with your integrity when circumstances become difficult
- Discerning what requires action, what requires attention, and what can be left alone